Dual Process Model of Grief
We see grief as being an individual process that focuses on two primary actions through which the mourner moves back and forth:
- Processing the actual loss
- Coping with the issues related to moving forward and making plans for the future
The Dual Process Model of grief demonstrates that it is healthy to experience grief in doses. Sometimes you will directly address your loss – sometimes you will more actively focus on life tasks and practical needs.
In therapy, the focus of the sessions moves back and forth between the actions. Our work allows you to process the feelings related to your loss, while at the same time taking care of your needs – taking care of your life. You set the pace. Some days your focus is more on your feelings of grief, others it is on your life and building your future.
You will still mourn the loss, but the weight of the pain is lessened. You start to have fewer bad days. Not that you are forgetting or “getting over” anything – you are moving forward. Your relationship with your loved one having evolved from one of acute pain to one more reflective of the totality of their relationship with you.